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Video:Deal With Temper Tantrums

with Kathy Moore

Every child has a temper tantrum now and then. Check out our tips and advice for dealing with temper tantrums.See Transcript

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Transcript:Deal With Temper Tantrums

Hi. I am Kathy Moore for about dot com parenting. Nearly every parent has experienced a child's tantrum. They usually happen at the most inconvenient times. This program will offer ideas on how to handle tantrums and what you can do to avoid them.

Preventing Temper Tantrums

The best strategy for dealing with tantrums is to prevent them in the first place. With a little practice you can identify the signs of a coming tantrum and deftly avoid them altogether by noticing right away as soon as your child starts to whine. In our house tantrums usually flare up over some control issue where one of our kids wants something or wants to do something that is not allowed.

Try Using a Distraction

I have noticed that if I distract my kids from whatever it is that they were wanting to do, I can avoid setting up the situation that leads to tantrums. Instead of saying NO do not do that, I try to change their attention to something else like pretending I heard a knock at the door and inviting the child to go check it out with me.

When It's Too Late for Prevention

In the event that you are unable to prevent the tantrum, try following this procedure to deal with your unruly child.

How to Stop a Temper Tantrum

Go lower and slower. I find if I get down to their eye level and tell the child calmly that I want to understand why they are upset it can change the dynamic immediately. Change the tone of your voice. Speak slowly and calmly. Do not shout or escalate the growing tension. Tell the child that it is difficult to understand them when they use a whiny or screaming voice and ask them to use a nice voice to tell you what the problem is. Make eye contact with your child and calmly repeat their problem back to them so they know you understand. Then address the problem and let them know that screaming and whining is not the appropriate way to communicate their desires.

Reward Good Behavior

If your child is able to calm down and behave properly be sure to hug and praise them. Rewarding desired behavior with positive attention will go a long way to avoiding future tantrums. Thanks for watching. To learn more, visit us on the web at Parenting.about.com.
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